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Queer, Christian, and raised in a Yupik Village
Julia McCarthy grew up Catholic in a Yupik village. She graduated from the University of Alaska Fairbanks, worked in Anchorage for a few years, and now lives in Maine with her partner. She wrote this essay about her journey as a queer person of faith on October 30, a few days before the religious conservatives of Maine voted to repeal the state’s new same-sex marriage law.
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How does that slogan go? I’m queer and I go to church – get used to it
I am a person who tries to practice my faith daily. I am a queer person who believes that we can experience mysteries that defy explanation in our daily life. I am a person who regularly attends church and believes that there are many, many paths to understanding ourselves and our relationship with the unknown. I am a person who loves math and science and logic and believes that we gain wisdom from knowledge.
My relationship with religion may seem complex to some. It is not a relationship which I choose to be very vocal about, for a variety of reasons. I’ve been inspired to try to share something of my path by the aggression I have seen directed toward a number of young people in our community and by the powerful words of our housemate, who chose to share his perspective. Thank you for reminding me that it’s important to come out in lots and lots of ways.
Spirituality and religion have played transformative roles in my life since I was born. The village culture I grew up in practiced both Catholicism (in Yupik) and a variety of ways of celebrating the worldview of Yupik peoples – dance, singing, mask making, storytelling, honoring the cycles of life. Fellowship with your community and with God was a part of my daily life in the village and imbued almost every task in some way or another. It’s how I learned to respect life, the natural world, responsibility to others, and more. These traditions are not without their challenges – most GLBTQ Yupik people I know have had both cultural and religious barriers to coming out. It was through the lessons I learned in the village that I developed a relationship with god, though, and it’s important to note that the lens through which that relationship developed was guided by the elders I loved and respected.
Throughout the rest of my childhood and into my teens I was a devout Catholic. I attended St. Nicholas Church in my hometown and, as I got older, found as many reasons to be at church as I could. My devotion to my faith set me apart from many of my peers and it was sometimes difficult for me to find community that was accepting of who I aspired to be. For a long time, I thought about becoming a nun – I felt my path to being a helping person was to be found next to God. I was confirmed as an adult in the tradition of that faith, and shortly thereafter chose to leave the Church. When I left Catholicism, I lost many of my friends. More importantly for me at the time, I lost my faith. There were a number of reasons that my relationship with God was damaged and the one reason that created a huge barrier for me in finding another community of faith was my queerness.
I was taught through declamations of supposedly loving people that the god that I had developed a relationship with throughout my life HATED me because I was queer. I learned through the behavior of my community and my peers that to be queer was to be without faith, without support, without dignity. I learned through conversations with other queer people that to adhere to a path of faith was scary and wrong, especially after understanding the damage inflicted upon queer people by communities of faith. I learned to create an armor to deflect the painful phrase “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” I learned to avoid conversations with people that had to do with any kind of spiritual belief system. I learned to hide my questions and to reject my beliefs and to keep my mouth shut so as not to offend anyone. I have watched people be shunned by their communities or live closeted in fear that they will be rejected and ridiculed if they come out. I have lost so many friends to suicide that I cannot keep track any longer. I decided that if there was any kind of higher purpose to life, it completely escaped me.
Then I met Jamez and with him I remembered what a joy it is to explore my faith. To lift up my voice in praise. To listen to a sermon and feel inspired to disagree with my faith leader and thereby learn more about who I am in the process. In this community of faith, I don’t need to make up my mind about anything to know that I have value.
When I think about the people who have been with me to explore my faith, I feel lucky to count among them people from all walks of life and all belief systems. It is not my intention to change your mind about your particular system of belief or non-belief.
I’ll tell you what I do think needs to change though:
I think more queer people need to feel safe coming out as people of faith.
I think people who are queer allies and practice any kind of religion need to feel like they can express dissent without becoming isolated.
I think people of faith who are NOT allies to GLBTQ people need to stop choosing to abuse their fellow humans with words and looks and actions.
We are complex beings, with beautiful multi-faceted identities. I want to see more love in the world, and if I can’t see that, I want to see more respect for one another.
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This Week in LGBT Alaska 10/23/09
Juneau
SEAGLA Social Fridays (6-8 p.m.) for GLBT people and our friends over 21, at The Imperial Bar, downtown.
Fairbanks
For info on these events, please see the post Fairbanks Retreat, Panel, GSA, and Harvest Ball
LGBTA Retreat 10/23-10/25 RSVP to Joshua.
The Halloween Harvest Ball 10/24, doors at 7:30, show at 8:30 p.m. Carlson Center $12. ICOAA.
UAF Gay-Straight Alliance, Mondays at 5 p.m. Jessi.
UAF panel on Anti-Gay Discourse 10/27 (Tuesday), 1-2 p.m. in the Wood Center.
Wednesday LGBTA Social at 9 p.m. Email Joshua for the current location.
Mat-Su Valley
Mat-Su LGBT Community Center in Palmer is open M-F 5-8 p.m. (except 6-8 on Wed.) The social group meets Wednesdays, 5-6 p.m. at Vagabond Blues.
Anchorage
Friday Movie Night at the GLCCA 10/23, 6:30 p.m. Anchorage LGBT Meetup group.
TLFMC Dinner 10/24, 6 p.m. RSVP to the Men of Alaska Meetup group.
AMP Launch Party at Snow City 10/24, doors at 6 p.m., Rocky Horror Picture Show movie at 7 p.m. Free, including snacks. Four A’s.
GRRLZ-only Halloween Bash 10/24, 8 p.m. RSVP for location.
Char & Teddy at the Indian House 10/24, 8 p.m. Ever Ready
ICOAA Annual Meeting 10/25, 3 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s
Sunday worship with MCC Anchorage.
Gay-Straight Alliance sparks dialogue on "ex-gays" with Chancellor’s support
“I’m committed to an open and welcoming and inclusive university. It’s important to me that this is a community where people feel safe and able to pursue their academic goals. I know there are times where this campus does not feel welcoming, inclusive or safe to some of our members. I’d like to change that.”“For those in this community who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, I’m sorry that there are people who are intolerant of who you are.”
“Delgado was quoted saying ‘the homosexual lifestyle leads to promiscuity, abuse, alcoholism and drug abuse’…”“Fact is, the vast, overwhelming number of promiscuous, diseased, abusive drug-addicted alcoholics (some of the darned nicest folks you’d ever ask for as friends, I might add) are heterosexuals. You know, the very same people who keep constantly screwing up marriage; that righteous bastion of American moral purity, the sacred institution threatened with destruction by same-sex unions.”“Never got around to hearing any of Delgado’s speeches, or a chance to confront the guy with his hypocrisy… But when all’s said and done, I’m left using the tools that I have been blessed with, lobbing poo from the sidelines. So I went home and drew about it…”
“The GSA not only had people stopping by the meetings after the whole thing, but it was so amazing to see how much support we were getting on campus. While we were doing our sit-down protest, a very nice man bought a few of us hot chocolate, and then later on even our Chancellor sat down with us for a few mintues… ON THE FLOOR!”“We have had so many people tell us we were so awesome in the way we handled ourselves. For those who were once worried about how the campus feels about GSA being on campus… that week the speaker was here showed us our campus’ true colors. The support we recieved was a happy and welcomed surprise. I have never been more proud to be a part of this campus then that week.”
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This Week in LGBT Alaska 10/16/09
Juneau
SEAGLA Social Fridays (6-8 p.m.) for GLBT people and our friends over 21, at The Imperial Bar, downtown.
Men’s Movie Night 10/17, 7 p.m. Email SEAGLA for details.
Fairbanks
Wednesday LGBTA Social at 9 p.m. Email Joshua for the current location.
UAF Gay-Straight Alliance, Mondays at 5 p.m. Jessi.
Mat-Su Valley
LGBTA Potluck 10/17, 3 p.m. at the Community Center.
Mat-Su LGBT Community Center in Palmer is open M-F 5-8 p.m. (except 6-8 on Wed.) The social group meets Wednesdays, 5-6 p.m. at Vagabond Blues.
Anchorage
Bryan Emler at MCC: “How To Be A Superhero” 10/16, 7-8 p.m.
Ever Ready in Eagle River at the VFW 10/16, 7:30-11:30 p.m.
Mad Myrna’s Diva Variety Show, with MCs Daphne DoAll & Duchess Paige, 9 p.m
LipGLoss Review Drag Divas and Kings 10/16, 10:30 p.m. at Kodiak Bar.
Bryan Emler at MCC: “Dream Big” 10/17, 7-8 p.m.
Side Street Saturdays, an informal meetup for LGBT writers, at noon in Side Street Cafe.
Jay Her’s PINK Comedy Hypnosis Show 10/17, 9 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
Salon DaVinci’s 2nd Annual Fall Harvest Fundraiser for Four A’s 10/18, 10 a.m. – 6 p.m.
Sunday worship, 2 p.m. at MCC Anchorage.
Gay, Joyous and Free AA Meeting, Mondays 6 p.m. at the GLCCA.
“Taking Woodstock” at Beartooth Theater 10/20-10/22, 5:30 p.m.
Step by Step Bible study group, Wednesdays 7-8 p.m. at MCC Anchorage.
Capt Kaos Fundraiser 10/22, 8 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
This Week in LGBT Alaska 10/9/09
Juneau
The Laramie Project sequel, one night only, Monday 10/12, 7:30 p.m. Free, at the Alaska Territorial Hall.
SEAGLA Social Fridays (6-8 p.m.) for GLBT people and our friends over 21, at The Imperial Bar, downtown.
Fairbanks
PFLAG’s October Meeting 10/11, 4 p.m.
Pump House Wednesdays, LGBTA social at the Chena Pump House, starts around 9:30 p.m.
Mat-Su Valley
Mat-Su LGBT Community Center in Palmer is open M-F 5-8 p.m. (except 6-8 on Wed.) The social group meets Wednesdays, 5-6 p.m. at Vagabond Blues.
Anchorage
Mad Myrna’s Diva Variety Show, with MC’s Daphne DoAll & Duchess Paige, 9 p.m.
Pride Conference Kick-off Dinner 10/9, 7 p.m. at Organic Oasis. Please RSVP.
QueerWorld Connect: Alaska Pride Conference 10/10 at APU, 8:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m.
National Equality March–Alaska Support Rally, 10/10, in front of Loussac Library 10 a.m.-6 p.m.
Alaskans Together social 10/10 at Kodiak Bar & Grill 5-7:30 p.m.
Pride Conference Queer Bowling with Adam & Steve 10/10, 7 p.m. RSVP required.
Mr., Miss and Ms. Gay Alaska ICOAA Pageant 10/10, doors at 8, show at 9 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
Alaskans Together annual meeting 10/11 at the Country Kitchen (next to the GLCCA) 9 a.m.-3 p.m.
“Crossing the Generations” Pride Conference Brunch Panel 10/11, 10:30-noon. Registration required.
PFLAG meeting with the DVD “Anyone and Everyone” 10/15 at Immanuel Presbyterian Church, 7 p.m.
This Week in LGBT Alaska 10/2/09
Juneau
SEAGLA Social Fridays (6-8 p.m.) for GLBT people and our friends over 21, at The Imperial Bar, downtown.
Fairbanks
Pump House Wednesdays, LGBTA social at the Chena Pump House, starts around 9 p.m.
Mat-Su Valley
Mat-Su LGBT Community Center in Palmer is open M-F 5-8 p.m. (except 6-8 on Wed.) The social group meets Wednesdays, 5-6 p.m. at Vagabond Blues.
Anchorage
Mad Myrna’s Diva Variety Show, with MCs Daphne DoAll & Duchess Paige, 9 p.m
Side Street Saturdays, an informal meetup for LGBT writers, at noon in Side Street Cafe.
Womyn’s Dance at the Snow Goose 10/3 doors open at 7:30 p.m., $5 donation requested.
Sunday worship, 2 p.m. at MCC Anchorage.
Gay, Joyous and Free AA Meeting, Mondays 6 p.m. at the GLCCA.
This Week in LGBT Alaska 9/25/09
This week’s events from the statewide newsletter. Subscribe to Alaska GLBT News.
Juneau
SEAGLA Reception for Aquafest cruisers 9/27, 6 p.m.
Social Fridays (6-8 p.m.) for GLBT people and our friends over 21, at The Imperial Bar, downtown.
Fairbanks
Jeff’s White Trash Party 9/26, 9 p.m. with DJ White Chocolate, for GLBT and friends 21 and over.
Mat-Su Valley
Mat-Su LGBT Community Center in Palmer is open M-F 5-8 p.m. (except 6-8 on Wed.) The social group meets Wednesdays, 5-6 p.m. at Vagabond Blues.
Anchorage
The True Diversity Dinner & Awards Celebration 9/25, 7 p.m. at the Snow Goose.
Tan-N-Test: Free Tan for a Donation to Four A’s 9/26, 10 a.m.- 8 p.m. at Preview Sun & Day Spa.
Free “Hopes & Dreams” spiritual retreat and potluck 9/26, noon-6 p.m. at MCC Anchorage.
Diversity Month GLBT Open House 9/26, 5-7 p.m. at The Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Anchorage.
“Hedwig and The Angry Inch” 9/26, 7 p.m. & 11 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
Sunday worship, 2 p.m. at MCC Anchorage.
ICOAA’s Investitures for the 37th Reign 9/27, 6 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
Transgender Support Group, Sundays 6:30-8:30 p.m. at the GLCCA.
The Lion Sings Tonight: A Four A’s benefit with “The Lion King” cast, Monday 9/28, 7 p.m. at Mad Myrna’s.
Grrlzlist Town Hall, Monday 9/28, 5 p.m. at Modern Dwellers Chocolate Lounge.
International Student Association: LGBT Issues Across Cultures, Thursday 10/1, 4-5 p.m. in the UAA Learning Resource Center, Rm 126.